Every other Saturday, we feature guest articles written by readers of LDD and/or bloggers from the domestic discipline blogging community. The Saturday Stories column gives others an opportunity to share their stories and experiences with domestic discipline, and we’re thrilled to be sharing another great article this week. This one touches on the subject of domestic discipline boot camp.
Since we have books on the subject of domestic discipline boot camp, we asked the writer of this Saturday Stories entry to include her name and contact information before we agreed to post it live on the LDD blog. We asked her to do this for two reasons: 1) so others understood that we had no influence on what she chose to write about, and 2) so anyone who may question the validity and/or genuineness of her article could contact her directly to verify it.
The writer of the article understood why this was/is necessary and agreed to include her contact information. The following paragraph, and the Saturday Story to follow, was written entirely by Priya. We have not manipulated, edited, or otherwise changed her words in any way, shape, form, or fashion. If you’d like to share a story to be featured on the LDD blog, you can read more about doing so here, or you can email your story to guestpost@learningdd.com. We look forward to featuring your story!
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Hi Guys-I am glad you are considering using this article on your blog. My purpose in writing it was to offer others an unbiased account of our experience going through the boot camp process. I know there has been some what of a controversy over it and I admit this did influence my opinion of it for a while. After sharing it with my HoH, Jason, he felt it was something we should try. I want to make it clear to others who read this that neither Clint nor Chelsea had anything to do with my choosing this topic to share on, our experience, or what was included in my article. I felt it only fair to share our account so that others who chose to go this route may benefit. I let many unfounded comments about boot camp deter me from sharing it with my husband for quite a while but our experience was so positive that I would hate for others to not at least consider it because of some of the “noise” that has been stirred up about it. We genuinely appreciate all the hard work you guys have put into the website and towards the online community. Our marriage has benefited so much and so has our family.Priya
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Our boot camp experience.I wanted to share our boot camp experience in an effort to help those that may be on the fence about it. For a little background, we have been a DD couple for about a year but only practicing it the right way for about 6 months—lol. When I first learned of boot camp, it was through message boards by those who often had heard of it but not actually tried it. Much of what I read contained negative experiences from what they had heard from others but not actually tried it themselves. Many of those writing on the subject admitted that they had not even read the book. I, like others, began to find flaws in the idea of dd boot camp even though I hadn’t read it for myself. After all, our DD was going ok. We were utilizing Clint and Chelsea’s website and postings as a guide and found ourselves slowing progressing. However, as I read more of the “controversy” in blog land on whether or not to do boot camp, I begin to wonder about it. Some couples felt it was an intense and positive experience–and well who doesn’t want that. What I didn’t understand was all the negative reviews from those who had not actually tried it.
About a month ago, we started to experience some bumps in our dd journey. Nothing serious but it seemed that we were stuck but unsure why. What was working before began to seem less effective for both sides. I decided to re-visit to boot camp idea even though I had read so many mixed reviews. After reading the book myself, I came away unsure. We were what we considered an “experienced” couple and much it of seemed like stuff we were already doing. I questioned whether or not there would be any value to a couple like us. I shared the book with my HoH and he made the decision that he wanted to try it. Honestly, I wasn’t excited about the idea. I mean, I didn’t see much difference between what we were doing and what the book said and the idea of extra spankings wasn’t something I was jovial about. However, as a DD wife I wasn’t left with much choice—boot camp here we come.
We made arrangements for a kid free weekend and discussed the specifics the night before.
After going through this experience I must say I was shocked. Clint has done a wonderful job in writing guidelines on how to reap the benefits of boot camp while still being able to personalize it to the needs and goals of the individual couple. I thought we knew everything already as far as what was covered in the book but I was completely wrong. Going through the exercises we not only found new ways to do things but also reasons why we were struggling with certain things before. The exercises got the conversation going about not only the questions that Clint provided but also as a spring board into other areas we were struggling with as a couple. We didn’t follow everything to T due to time constraints and where we are at as a couple but still had a great experience. Clint reminds couples several times throughout the book that this experience can and should be personalized to fit the couple.
Now a word on the punishments. I have read many say they do not see why administering punishments as outlined in boot camp is helpful. I wondered this myself. However, after completing it, I have a whole new view of the idea. Going through the process pushes both the submissive and the Hoh but in a positive way. I saw my Hoh in a whole new light afterwards. I felt greater respect for him as well as appreciation because of his commitment to go through this process with me. After all, I brought the idea of DD to him. We have moved leaps and bounds since then. In fact, when I first brought the idea, he said he didn’t think he could ever spank me. Fast forward a year later and he has no problem with it at all and has become quite a pro—LOL. The spankings hurt, were intense, and I was glad when they were over. That being said I got so much out of it and so did he. Our consistency on both sides has improved. I feel more submissive (which is a feeling I thoroughly enjoy), and take his authority much more seriously. After finishing boot camp, we both feel more committed to DD and each other. I urge all couples considering boot camp to read it for yourself and then decide if it’s something right for your situation. For us it did wonders. I honestly cannot say enough about it. I struggled with insecurity on whether or not my husband was really committed to this or if he was going through the motions for me. After boot camp, I felt new confidence his commitment to this lifestyle which has brought me great peace of mind. I hope this helps other couples navigating this unique way of life.
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We’d like to thank you, Priya, for submitting this article and for having the courage to write about your experience with domestic discipline boot camp. It appears as though the experience was a success for you two, and we’re so happy to hear that. Congratulations on all the progress you two have made in domestic discipline! That’s so exciting! We’re happy to hear boot camp has helped you both in all the ways it is intended to, and we wish you both many more years of health, happiness, and harmony in both your marriage and your home.
Once again, if you would like to share your story, we’d love to feature it on the LDD blog! You can read more about doing so here, or you can email your article(s) to guestpost@learningdd.com. Thank you!
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