Several weeks ago we kicked off our summer and fall guest post column series with 4 guest writers from several different domestic discipline dynamics. We’re in the fourth and final week of our guest post series and kicking it off where we started, with Jill.
This week, Jill wraps up her guest post column with the conclusion to her post about what happened when her husband, J, decided to give spanking in their marriage one more shot.
[heading style=”1″]Spanked and It’s Over[/heading]
I had done my research about domestic discipline before we started, probably moreso than the average person. One thing that I kept seeing repeated was about how after the spanking is over “the slate is wiped clean” and whatever transgression occurred was over with. I guess I never truly understood what that meant until I experienced it firsthand.
Once J decided I was getting spanked for my red light incident I was anxious to see how this was going to go. Better than last time I had hoped, and I was right.
J asked me to go upstairs to the spare bedroom and I complied. One of the things J had said was that if we were going to give spankings one more chance that he didn’t want to use our master bedroom because he didn’t want it associated with such a negative thing. I thought that was a little odd at first, but in hindsight it makes sense.
I could tell that J had really done his homework on spanking because it went much different than the previous time. The lecture was more stern, and because he was pretty upset about the incident I think the passion in his voice really helped me to understand why he was upset. The lecture was 10 times better than it had been in the time or two past.
When it came time for the actual spanking I was nervous. Up until that point I had been abnormally calm, probably because I was interested to see how this would really work for us if he took it seriously. Or, if both of us did. And, I’m happy to report that it worked just as I had read about.
I had read that the paddle hurts like crazy. That is true.
The tears from the spanking will help you to feel better. That is definitely true.
The more you cooperate, the quicker it will go. I’m glad I remembered that because that is true.
And the biggest thing I had reaffirmed to me was that the slate truly is wiped clean after a spanking, which was something I was surprised over. When I had first heard that phrase mentioned on a few different blogs I thought it likely wouldn’t be that way for me simply because I have the type of personality where I hold grudges, and I tend to harbor negative feelings towards people for long periods of time. It’s something I hate about myself, but it is reality. So I expected to feel that way when it came to spankings, and domestic discipline too. It was one of my hesitations when we first started it because I worried that if J spanked me in a way that I thought was too hard I would resent him for it, or something like that. That is just one example of several that crossed my mind.
I also thought there was no way that J could just magically forget the transgression occurred after spanking me, and move on like nothing ever happened. While that was in part true – he didn’t forget – he was able to move on relatively easy and it wasn’t mentioned again. It seemed like the spanking really helped him to get over the issue too, which I didn’t expect.
We’ve learned so much since we started domestic discipline. The saying that this lifestyle is hard but worth it could not be more accurate.
I’ve loved sharing our journey with you and hope I can do so again in the future.
~Jill~
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Jill and J’s story portrays what we think a lot of those who are beginning domestic discipline go through, and we agree with Jill when she says that the lifestyle is definitely hard (even for those who are not beginners!) but that it is worth it.
We’ve asked Jill to provide an update as to how her and J are doing now, and we’re happy to report that her and J are still going strong with domestic discipline. Jill says they have actually began using spankings as the primary punishment now, and that J has became really fond of the hairbrush (sorry Jill!). J and Jill are looking forward to doing their first domestic discipline boot camp in the next few months.
Thank you to J and Jill for being willing to share your story.
We’ll see you tomorrow for a brand new Five Things Friday.
Also, as a reminder, tonight is our first Submissive Partner Chat Night in the new LDD Network! The chat starts at 9PM EST.
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