It’s crazy to believe we’re almost done with our first round of guest post columnists!
This week we’re back with Jill’s story, who was right in the middle of telling us about the “great spanking debate” that her and her husband encountered in her last post.
Go ahead Jill. 
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[heading style=”1″]The Great Spanking Debate Part Two[/heading]
A few weeks passed after J and I sat down at odds yet again over domestic discipline. Starting this lifestyle had been difficult, no doubt about it. It was much harder than I expected and since the fall out from the first spanking it seemed to be even more difficult than either of us imagined it would be.
At the end of the conversation we had about the first spanking, I was surprisingly more okay with it than I thought I would be. I was very “anti-spanking” from the time I first heard about domestic discipline (or before to be honest) all the way up until after my first spanking. A week after it had occurred, J and I finally sat down, as I mentioned in my last post, and I was beginning to come around more to the idea. I thought that maybe if I would have been more okay with it from the get go that I would have seen the results I had heard about that are supposed to come after a spanking. I blamed my reaction on the fact that I just , plain and simple, didn’t know the spanking was coming. I didn’t even know the spanking was a possibility. I know that is rare, unheard of, and not condoned in domestic discipline. I’m just being honest here.
J, on the other hand, felt differently. He felt like the spanking had mixed results. He admitted that he liked that it changed my behavior (no more staying out late and worrying him!) but he didn’t like my reaction afterwards, the cold shoulder, or some of the things I said to him that I now wish I could take back. He felt similar to how I did in the sense that the first spanking didn’t go as planned, nor how either of us envisioned, but he felt differently in the sense that he had the attitude of, “well, we did it, we tried it, and it didn’t work so moving on..”. But I was more open to trying it again.
It felt weird to switch from making sure that spanking was never included in our marriage to creating a list of reasons why it now should be. But there I was, sitting at our kitchen table in the middle of the night making a list. I couldn’t sleep, and my mind was racing at the thought of J withdrawing spanking as a consequence. A part of me thought that it wasn’t a big deal, since spanking was never formally a consequence to begin with, but the other half of me was nervous that this was the beginning of the inconsistency tailspin that I’d heard so much about.
I gave J my list the following morning but he didn’t have much time to read it as he was running late for work. Days went by and I’d heard nothing from him about it. Then weeks passed and still not a word. I didn’t quite know how to bring it up to him, so I just let it go and moved forward.
A few weeks after I came home from the store to a very unhappy J sitting at the table. He had a paper in his hand and I didn’t think much of it at first until he later told me that it was a ticket and that one of those red light cameras in town had caught me running a red light the week prior. The camera then snaps a picture of your cars license plate and sends the citation to the address your vehicle is registered to. The fine was a pretty hefty one, and J was not happy.
I’d almost forgotten about spanking at that point, and wrote it off as something we were highly unlikely to do again until J said that he wanted to try to spank me the right way that time. The way that involved a lecture, and him being calm, followed by some aftercare. Although I expected to be panicked, begging him not to, and a complete mess, a surprising calm came over me.
He led me upstairs, and I knew I was about to get spanked, but what came next was something I never expected..
Until next time,
~Jill~
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